Comments on: Drinking and Choice

By: Roy

Roy — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 14:12:14 +0000

I’m crazy late on this one (Oooh, only 10 months, pffft), but this is really, really uncool.

By: Djiril

Djiril — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 22:34:17 +0000

This is exactly why I usually don’t go out drinking with people. I do not want “friends” to try to get me drunk so I can fit in with them, and so far none of my friends who drink have convinced me that they will respect my wishes in that regard.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 20:46:37 +0000

I am under the impression that much of what could be considered “normal” frat boy humor has the potential to be more harmful. Not to sound judgmental; I base that on experiences of friends/acquaintances.

This, however, is all the worse because his choice was taken away from him.

By: onebrownwoman

onebrownwoman — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 07:34:19 +0000

This story is so terrifying. I find myself more and more aware of the lack of safe space that comes with normalizing these kinds of situations. “Good fun”…pff! That whole culture of putting people in danger at the expense of a few laughs is…well, you know.

Anyways, thanks for the awesome comment - yeah, my stomach flipped too when I read what her sig.other said. And you know, my dad also asked me about shaving my legs once - was very concerned as to why I had stopped (even though it was just a lazy hiatus!) - at one point he suggested that women do it because it makes them feel cleaner, just like men shave their faces. Sigh. I probably argued till I turned blue in the face, to no avail. I want to believe that one day, he’ll get it.

I’m so motivated to post soon! thank you!!

By: Johnny Wadd

Johnny Wadd — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 01:22:29 +0000

Sounds to me like typical frat boy humour which normally passes as harmess but obviously in this case could have turned out much worse for Peter.

By: Lake Desire

Lake Desire — Tue, 10 Oct 2006 19:23:38 +0000

By not taking forced drinking seriously, absence of choice in all other aspects of life is normalized.

By: Ragnell

Ragnell — Tue, 10 Oct 2006 09:51:35 +0000

Our company sexual harassment training last year went over a date rapist’s MO. They don’t always go for drugs, sometimes they do that. Sometimes they just ply their date with alcohol, keep buying her drinks. After a few, she agrees to a few more because her judgment’s shot, and then a few more and she’s forgotten how many she’d had and this nice young man, a friend of a friend of a friend who’s been buying her drinks offers to drive her home.