This time from IGN.com. It’s a month old, but it’s new to me (thanks, Ragnell). I have my “for ‘her’” category, but I’m really starting to feel like I need one specifically for “The Girlfriend List Idiocy” because this is just ridiculous. People rarely tell us “What Men Want” because it’s assumed to be too diverse in the vast majority of subjects, and yet over and over again these “What Women Want” lists crop up. You, out of my geekdom!
Anyway, here’s what I sent via their contact form:
Articles like these are precisely why I avoid your site. I am an avid geek - a gamer, comics fan, and into reading and writing about said geekery. I am exactly what your magazine/site targets, except for that inconvenient aspect of being female.
Women are not some collective Hive Vagina. You can no more recommend good books for us than you can for men — and the only “Books/Games/Whatever for Your Boyfriend” lists I have seen are parodies of the overabundant stereotyical “Girlfriend Lists”.
Listen, I’m sure the list was made and posted with the best intentions. But, please, from one geek to another: please stop. I’m not some mysterious creature to be tamed with your list of books. I — and every other woman, geek or no — am an individual. A human being.
When you publish lists like that, you erase our humanity by assuming that we’re all the same.
Ragnell, the evil sadist who sent me the link in the first place, has posted her reply here. It’s pithy and to the point, and if you want to laugh instead of cry/fume, go read it.
July 9th, 2006 at 3:27 pm
[...] It is apparently an unending problem for geeky men that their girlfriends, who may or may not be geeks, get upset when their boyfriends jilt them for their geek obsession. So I, in my infinite wisdom, and only parly inspired by this post have decided to make the definitive list on getting your girlfriend into your fandom, whatever it may be. So, boys, please pay attention! [...]
July 9th, 2006 at 4:53 pm
Wonderful, snarky reply from Ragnell. Thank you for linking!
July 9th, 2006 at 5:13 pm
(And your reply is awesome, too!)