Just an interesting article.

A friend of mine who was married is polyamorous–she lost a lot of friends and her husband when she came out. She’s much happier now, but it was hard to see her suffer and lose loved ones because she was honest about her sexuality.

Like many people, I grew up with the assumption that polygamy and polyamory = cheating. I’m glad to have those blinders off.

It’s a mistake to judge all forms of multi partner relationships by the fringe extremes. Critics point to the patriarchal, fundamentalist polygynists as being typical of all such relationships. But such critics would not judge monogamy in its entirety by pointing to abusive, violent marriages as being typical. They have the wrong focus. Instead of seeing that the problem is the fundamentalism and the patriarchy, they lay the blame on the relationship form.

I am nonmonogamous, a libertine — my relationship life consists mainly of having several casual, “friends with benefits”, but I’m essentially emotionally independent. I’m honest about how I live right up front, and it’s worked well for me for more than 30 years.

Thanks for this post — I’m going to link to it in my nonmonogamy links list on my blog.