Comments on: “He’s a man”, “she’s a woman”… So what?

By: tekanji

tekanji — Wed, 24 Aug 2005 03:59:35 +0000

Naw, hot dogs were never a feat. I had already learned bacon by then, which is much more complicated. Stir fry, now that was a feat. And it still is in my mom’s wok. Ho-ly that thing is wierd! I burnt the eggplant dish I got from your magazine, although not too badly and the rest of the recipie was good. Mom went back for third helpings, LOL.

A-fucking men to your statment about “boys will be boys”, too. Sometimes it bloggles my mind that such an idiodic saying is still used to “defend” bad behaviour.

By: Buffy

Buffy — Tue, 23 Aug 2005 20:49:58 +0000

Actually, your cooking has come SO far. I remember when hot dogs in the micro was a feat for you. LOL

I also think a lot of people tend to hide behind the “boys will be boys” idea. They use it to get away with behavior under the guise that it’s not really *their* fault, being it’s what is “expected” of them. I think this goes for both boys and girls. Guys who refuse to learn how to care for themselves and woman who refuse to learn how to survive without a man would probably be the far extreme of this mindset. I might enjoy being a rich manâ€™s wife, but Iâ€™m not banking on it LOL

By: tekanji

tekanji — Sat, 20 Aug 2005 19:10:19 +0000

DS: Tell me about it -.- Pop-science = teh eval. Sometimes it’s the reporters jumping to wild conclusions based on data that shows a correlation between one of the many elements that supports their bigoted ideals. Other times, I’m sad to say, it’s the researcher taking their own data and doing the same thing, all the while ignoring other factors that contribute to the behavioural expression. Seriously people, it doesn’t take a degree in science to know bad conclusions when you come across them. If I can do it, newspapers should be able to as well.

Kristy: That’s how I feel exactly! Although for me it wasn’t so much people telling me I need to learn how to cook for my future husband and just an observation of my parents (before the divorce my mom was a SAHM and my dad still doesn’t know how to cook anything but grill-type food) coupled with the messages coming in from society loud and clear.

The awful thing is that it made me lose several years where I could have been learning the basics of cooking (me and the oven still have issues). When I went off to university, I decided that eating out or eating mac and cheese every night just wasn’t acceptable, so I had to learn how to cook. It turns out that, for whatever reason, I turned out to be a pretty damn good cook. Although any future spouse I may or may not have will be disappointed if s/he thinks that I will be the one doing all the cooking; when my ex and I lived together he would cook half the time and the other half be my sous-chef. He did teach me how to do a mean shake and bake, though, LOL ^^;

And “boys will be boys” is not only an odious phrase, it’s also not even correct. Sometimes boys will be girls and girls will be boys. Heck, leaving transgendered issues aside, throughout Western history one of the highest compliments you could give a woman was that she was like a man.

By: Kristy

Kristy — Sat, 20 Aug 2005 13:50:21 +0000

That extract really struck a cord for me. I think for me it
become a issue when people kept telling me as a teenager ‘you need
to learn how to cook for your future husband’. It turned me off
learning how to cook for a very long time and made me think why do
I have to be the one doing all the cooking?

I think i have been questioning the ‘lies’ every since.

I detest the saying ‘boys will be boys’.

By: Darth Sidhe

Darth Sidhe — Thu, 18 Aug 2005 20:25:35 +0000

Oh yes, and also warm fuzzies for the conclusion, too.

By: Darth Sidhe

Darth Sidhe — Thu, 18 Aug 2005 20:25:04 +0000

Last I looked, the only feathers I have are on the masks I make and the only bills I have are the ones on my Visa statements.

Maybe eggs confer upon their bearers similar qualities, and the…person hypothesizing as to why women cheat is on to something.

Being a pseudo-intellectual is only funny when you’re not doing it for real.