I definitely think that, even for people who want kids, children shouldn’t be the default. As you said, it’s a huge responsibility (and not one that you can be like, “oops, I don’t want this thing anymore!” and take it back to the store or something) that changes a person’s life. But I suppose I’m preaching to the choir, lol You should have heard me talking to my dad’s gf (she’s also childfree) about my surgery, we started going on and on about it and then we were like, “but both of us know that already, don’t we?”

I’ve been in a relationship now for nearly 4 years and neither I nor my partner are interested in having children. It often seems to me that our decision is incomprehensible to those around us, but having children is a big responsibility and not one I want to take on when there is so many other things I want to do with my life.

It’s nice to see someone standing up for what they believe in.

It is amazing to me that people don’t blink at the decision to have
one’s boobs enlarged to the size of watermelons, but mention tying
your tubes and their mouths hang open as if you’d just suggested
you might like to jump off the Golden Gate Bridge for fun.

Happily snipped and loving it for 8 years now!

Thanks for your comments everyone! I’m glad that my post could strike a chord with so many people.

Oh, and for some reason this comment box’s dimensions are borked, FYI.

just wanted to say thanks for articulating what so many of us are feeling. good to know there’s someone else out there having the same problems/thoughts. keep your chin up and good luck with the bingo-ers.

Small world. ;P