Monthly Archives: December 2005

On Chivalry

Posted on December 29, 2005 by tekanji

Most of my friends know my stance on chivalry: it needs to rest in a watery grave. Some of them think that I go overboard with my outspoken hatred of a tradition that is supposedly about “good manners.” They think that if I try to dismantle the system that I’ll deprive them of the privilege of having their SO’s do anything from open car doors for them to give them flowers. But, what they don’t get is that I could care less what arrangements they make with the people in their lives. I care about what people try to do to me without my consent. I care about what the unspoken “rules” of chivalry mean for me and other women. And that is why I hate chivalry in its current incarnation, not because I’m against people opening doors for each other or whatever other considerate gestures they wish to extend.

Over in the feminist LJ, police_my_lips has sparked a discussion on the matter. I’d like to pull some choice quotes from commenters and elaborate on my own experiences and opinions. Continue reading →

Posted in Feminism, Gender Caste, The Evil -ism's | 34 Comments

Turning the other [butt]cheek

Posted on December 27, 2005 by tekanji

Astarte might have a budding career as a comedian, ’cause she has the “it’s funny because it’s true” category down pat. In response to the men who came to her blog to read about Hot Girl-on-Girl Action and were sorely … Continue reading →

Posted in Gender issues, Sex, sexuality, and sexual politics, Teh Funnay, The Evil -ism's, Video Games | 2 Comments

The best drug you'll never take

Posted on December 26, 2005 by tekanji

Instead of finishing my rant on another one of those stupid “gifts for her” list, writing on gender in Indigo Prophecy, or finishing the essay I want to submit to She’s Such a Geek, I’ve been hit with the creative … Continue reading →

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Can't a man be "sexy" for once???

Posted on December 26, 2005 by tekanji

Democrat Dates! Only Women Are Sexy Here I was, trying to read Pandagon because I haven’t checked it out in a couple of weeks. I was minding my own business, looking forward to get my dose of snark against sexism, … Continue reading →

Posted in Advertising, Gender issues, Politics, Sex, sexuality, and sexual politics | 3 Comments

No, sir, that's not made for me

Posted on December 26, 2005 by tekanji

Over at New Game Plus, Lake Desire shares her feelings on the disconnect between what she, a woman, wants in a game and what male players think she wants: Final Fantasy X-2 wasn’t my first disappointment in the series (particularly … Continue reading →

Posted in For "her", Video Games | 3 Comments

Top "Geek Girl"-Friendly Rules!

Posted on December 24, 2005 by tekanji

Do you want to get your girlfriend or wife into technology, but you’re afraid she’s too feeble minded to be able to appreciate your magnanimous gift? Have you run out of gift guides to scour, but still need a gift for the girl “geek” in your life? Well, fear not, friend! You’ve come to the right place. This list will give you the skills that you need to decide what pieces of technology are and are not appropriate for the little women in your life! Continue reading →

Posted in For "her", Girlfriend Lists, Teh Funnay | 6 Comments

Update on War Against Non-Christians: Considerate Christians Targeted, Too

Posted on December 22, 2005 by tekanji

This just in… a Christian who said “Happy Holidays” was read her rights by an angry God Warrior. dear customer: when i am ringing you up, i do not say happy holidays to upset you. i do not hate christmas. … Continue reading →

Posted in Eradicating Divisive Discourse, USA, War on Non-Christians | Leave a comment

We're Here, We're Green…?

Posted on December 20, 2005 by tekanji
Old Versus New
I’m not just a good girl; I’m one of those girls, too.

I have always had a kind of “girl next door” look. With my brown hair, brown eyes, and slim build I was constantly being told that I looked like so-and-so’s sister/cousin/relative. In addition to my looks, I did my homework, got good grades, didn’t drink/smoke/do drugs, hung with a good crowd, etc. Outside, I was a normal girl. A good girl. Not one of those girls.

Inside, I was anything but. I wanted to be different, to not blend in with everyone else. My personality – that of a strong-willed, outspoken, fantasy-loving, game-loving, anime-loving feminist – was enough to satisfy me for a while. But, I longed for my appearance to match who I was inside. Continue reading →

Posted in Alternative, Censorship, Personal, Popular Culture | 5 Comments

The War Against Non-Christians

Posted on December 20, 2005 by tekanji

By now, I’m sure y’all have heard about the so-called War on Christmas. Because, you know, Christians in America are an oppressed group. Unlike Jews, Muslims, pagans of various stripes, or atheists. It’s not like their God is in the pledge that children have to speak every day… oh, wait, it is. Well, it’s not like the majority of their religious holidays are national holidays… oh, wait, they are. Uh. Er. They’re oppressed, really! I mean, prayer in school has been outlawed, evolution is taught in science class, the god-given commandments are not allowed to be in public buildings, and now… now they have to put up with “PC” phrases such as “Happy Holidays” and “Season’s Greetings” being said alongside “Merry Christmas”. If this continues, people of other faiths (or lack of faith) might start thinking that their beliefs are equal to those of the God Warriors!

I, myself, became a casualty of this vicious war when I was dealing with a credit card issue just a few days ago.

I was on the phone with the representative and after we had resolved everything she said, “Ha… Merry Christmas.”

I replied, “And a Happy Holidays to you.” Truth be told, what I really had wanted to say was, “Where the hell do you get off assuming that I celebrate Christmas?” But, really, it might not have been the rep’s fault. From the way she started saying something else, it sounds like it’s company policy. And that, my friends, is just not cool. Continue reading →

Posted in Companies Behaving Badly, Conservative, Multiculturalism, Personal, USA, War on Non-Christians | 6 Comments

Feminist Blogs: Network, Support Group, Way of Life

Posted on December 12, 2005 by tekanji

I know, three posts practically in a row. So unusual for me. But Sour Duck’s post really jumped out at me: This is why it’s so important to read feminist publications, participate in feminist communities and events, and generally do … Continue reading →

Posted in Feminism | 8 Comments